One thing I know most men hate the most: the feeling of powerlessness.That’s why most men are not good with women when they cry. When a woman, in her tears, tells a man how hurt she is and it’s because this and that have happened, he would think she is asking him to fix something for her, or to come up with some solution. Hence the all too familiar response, “what do you want me to do!!!” And that’s the sense of powerlessness speaking. Women, however, are not looking for solutions, suggestions nor advices when they cry to their men. They want them to listen with empathy. Just listen. You can give Kleenex, you can hug, you can be silent, but you need to be looking at her and just listen. A few nods here and there, an occasional “uh huh…” “ah…” and “aw…” would be all she needs at the time. If you want him to be there to listen to you, ladies, be careful how you sound when you are “just” expressing yourself. Don’t sound like you are blaming him for how you feel even if you honestly feel that way. Remember, most men don’t like to feel powerless. That said, and if you want him to only listen, some clarification would go a long way, like, “I just want you to listen; you don’t need to do or say anything. Just listen.” and they help your guy to not freak out and in the end, you get what you want and he is not afraid of your tears.A wise woman knows how to teach her man to give her what she wants. This is called “empowering.” When she is happy, he feels all powerful and good. A win-win situation.