She told me she was going to the North. She met someone online and started talking to him and after 3 months of flying back and forth over weekends, she decided the best way to find out if they are right for each other is to be with each other and not do long distance.I worried for her. She is violating the rule of the heart #2.Like physical rules that govern our physical world, there are rules that govern our heart. We know gravity is at work, we just don’t pay attention all the time. When we fall, we bruise our knees and that’s gravity at work in part. We just have to submit ourselves to gravity and there is no denying it. The rules of the heart are there too. We, also, don’t pay attention to them all the time. When we challenge those rules, either knowingly or not, we will meet resistance at the best, and if we insist on not respecting the rules of the heart, our heart will bruise too.As she was still married to her ex husband, both of them had affairs. They both eventually left the outsiders, but never really worked on the “bruise” and the marriage bled to death. They divorce. In therapy we worked on guilt (her affair), anger (his affair), and we went through stages of grief for the loss of the marriage and her dreams of having children with him. We revisited her childhood trauma and her parents’ divorce. It was a hefty two-year work. She became more in touch with her feelings and more assertive and that made her more attractive according to people who know her well. One thing, though, we were still working on when she left, was the issue of loneliness.There was never one time in her young life of 29 that she didn’t have a boyfriend of some sort. While still married, she had this guy friend at work who would listen to her sad stories and became her confidante, later boyfriend. While she was divorcing, she felt so scared and lonely and started talking and meeting with people she met online. It usually started as innocent exchanging of profiles, and that would turn into emails and by the time they met in person, she already felt very connected emotionally. So when the guy suggested sex, she would feel intimate enough with him to consent to it. But soon after, she would want more commitment and that’s when the guys want to disengage.Rule of the heart #2 says, after you break up with someone with whom you have an intimate relationship with, you are vulnerable and that is not a good time to enter another relationship. Your heart needs time to heal, and you need to give it a quiet, slow-paced, safe and nurturing environment for that to happen. Like recovering from a bad cold, you shouldn stay home to regain your health and strength. It is not a time to go train for marathon. And if you want to work at all, you should start with something light and not stress yourself out. She should take a break from men, figure out who she is and what could be a more effective and healthy way to battle loneliness that many singles face. Regrettably, our time was running out.After 3 boyfriends who all left her in a short period of time for no apparent reasons, she found this person and felt she wanted to know him more. She found a job near him and told me she would move in with him since she didn’t have a place of her own up North yet. We said goodbye, and I just prayed that this time she would find her true love and he would truly love, respect and protect and wait for her.